General How should a parent discipline their children?

[ElderKingpin]

No, there is no full way to just discipline a child, slapping them around wont always work. There are times when different methods work, and that is what matters.

Hitting your child is ALWAYS (it should be) better then whatever is equivalent to grounding, ive always seen grounding as being some really loose junk. For example, a friend of mine was grounded, he couldnt go play with other people, but other people could go play for him, pretty bull. And i see the people who do not want to hit kids, they have a good heart, and it is the same for political parties also, a democrat has a good heart in that he wants to help people, but it is not always the best.

A while ago one of the teachers told us a story that when he was a kid there was a storm (and i mean a serious) storm where the teacher's father had told him to stay in this specific spot, and the dad had to go away to do some work, he wouldnt be able to see him but the father could see the child. Well, the storm came and it was pouring and it pounded on the area, and the kid was scared he could not see his dad and he was scared the rain would blow him away, He lost control and he had to run across the lot (i dont remember what he ran across) but when he came across he told the dad he was scared. The dad didnt hit him or anything, he just looked at the kid square, shook his head and said "im disappointed"

Again, that is a case where hitting does not work, nor is does just grounding work, it is in a case like this where the parent must tell the kid that they failed literally failed them. This is something i am absolutely sure in.

 

[Azlier]

I say that outright hitting and grounding doesn't work well. Now showing exactly what and why what they did was wrong, that works. Of course you have to be sneaky about it for the full effect.

 

[Avaleirra]

Or you could embarass them completely. That works too.

e.g, bring the kid to the mall and pretend to have a seizure.

 

[Tru_Power22]

I say just smack the moron until he gets the fact that what he is doing is stupid. Simple as that.

 

[Whitesock]

he just looked at the kid square, shook his head and said "im disappointed"

But in reality different children will react to punishments in different ways. Normally hitting (as long as it isn't actually beating, just some spanks) will get the point across.

 

[ElderKingpin]

lol xD.

But there ish a point where no amount of hitting or grounding or "IM DISAPPOINTED' will work.

 

[thewrongvine]

But in reality different children will react to punishments in different ways. Normally hitting (as long as it isn't actually beating, just some spanks) will get the point across.

LOL!
I say a blend of it all.

~Hai-Bye-Vine~

 

[Jimpy]

I think a common trend young parents are making in the 20th century, that you see regularly is when parents are trying to be of friend status with their children, and not actually a parent (dealing with young kids about 15 and under, beyond that, it matters less and less I think at a somewhat exponential rate).

Clearly this is a flawed plan granted its a stupid balancing act that goes without discipline, which is a huge mistake in my opinion.

Hitting is bad, yelling and barking is bad. My dad's done a good job with the magic of rationality and concern, and explaining them to me. I feel they've left a positive impression on me.

 

[Nigerianrulz]

my parents definitely is one of those who hits/yell/fails to discipline my brother. I think i was matured at a very young age, i understood a lot even when i was young and everytime my dad lectures about "My Life"(which was like the day before lol) he treat us as if im like a 10 year old who knows absolutely nothing.

So, to me parents should allow as much freedom for their child as possible, i reckon its better when they make the wrong decision themselves and then have the consequences impacted on themselves then they will understand truely what most parents hit/yell or whatever at their kid for.

 

[Samael88]

There is nothing that can't be fixed with a good old flogging can't fix

But seriously, I think that it is nessecary with some kind of physical punishment at least once during childhood, else kids won't know about that kind of concequence.
You can't know that fire is hot until you feel it

 

[Avaleirra]

There is nothing that can't be fixed with a good old flogging can't fix

But seriously, I think that it is nessecary with some kind of physical punishment at least once during childhood, else kids won't know about that kind of concequence.
You can't know that fire is hot until you feel it

Agreed. Physical punishment until they get some sense. Then when they do (teens) you let them find out things in their own.

 

[ElderKingpin]

you cant trust a teenager, ESPECIALLY as a teenager a parent needs to learn how to bring down DA LAW

 

[Zakyath]

Violence feeds violence, corporal punishment is for parents who can't raise a kid properly.

 

[thewrongvine]

Violence feeds violence, corporal punishment is for parents who can't raise a kid properly.

Yeah, pretty much. Obi wan doesn't hit Anakin.
Then again, most parents can't raise kids properly, which means at least some physical discipline is needed. I just say, not too much.

~Hai-Bye-Vine~

 

[Aqua Dragon]

Perhaps this only worked for me because I'm not exactly dumb, but I believe that simply giving logical explanations as to why something should not be done and using diplomatic methods that makes both the parent and child happy is the best way to show them not to do something. If you've got an illogical kid, just hitting them will only teach them to not do it while around you, so hitting or most other punishments is kind of a moot point.

But if they are logical and willing to listen, and the parent is logical and willing to listen, both sides can be represented without any yelling, beating, or generally any strife.

That's my take - I prefer constructive criticism and discussion as a means of punishment. Perhaps it is too optimistic as to how most families can function however.

 

[ElderKingpin]

"You cannot think straight with your fist clenched"

 

[ReVolver]

"You cannot think straight with your fist clenched"

Open hand palm is an alternative

 

[ElderKingpin]

the parents should be the ones that keep their bitch hand strong.

 

[Tru_Power22]

Open hand palm is an alternative

Thank you, now I finally have a response to people who say that.

I think most people are in agreement that you need to hit your kids. Pain is the one language we understand from birth.

 

[T.s.e]

Fear is something you instill, respect is something you earn. You don't earn respect from your child for being so cowardly that you need to use your physical superiority to dicipline it.