A kiss, is it meaningful?

[tom_mai78101]

People living in the Western civilizations think a kiss is just a kiss, it's no big deal.
People living in the Eastern civilizations believed a kiss is actually embarrassing.

I'm in a place, a suburban city, full of people who thinks kissing in public is outright humiliating. Shyness is the culprit, I guess.

But you're in a place, probably a rural modern town, or a bustling city, and you believed a kiss is something that means either a simple greetings or being affectionate toward another. Gender doesn't matter in this society and era.

Now, what can I do? If I like a person, I just can't kiss it right away. I can give her sweets and a love card, but getting turned down is somewhat common among my status quo.

What can you do? I'm impressed that you can kiss anyone on a special day, kiss someone on the cheek resembling "Welcome!", or you can kiss anytime, anywhere, in any way.

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What's a kiss? Why is it so meaningful that it's hard for me to grasp that weird sensation? If you watched Kenan & Kel on Nickelodeon, you'll see me doing the "WHY...!?! " sign at the sky.

 

[Faust]

Can be or not.

 

[sqrage]

Yea, I say kisses mean something. Typically you don't kiss someone who you have no feelings toward (usually you have at least a little, if not a physical attraction) unless of course you're under the influence and it just seems like the right thing to do. In which case it's probably a different story, but it really depends on the people. Some people go around kissing everyone they think is hot while others only do so with people they really care about.

 

[DDRtists]

It depends for me. I've kissed people I've really liked, and then I've kissed people I thought were hot but had no emotional feeling towards. If you love or have emotions for the person, a kiss is very meaningful. However, if you don't, it is nothing more than a meaningless gesture simply for amusement or fun.

 

[Lobster]

it depends on the culture.

 

[tom_mai78101]

So, a kiss is just an action that's dependent of cultures, other than that it's nothing at all, right?

 

[King TonGoll]

a kiss is a greate way to exchange pharamones, so if your intention is to bring some one to the bed, its a great starter.

however, it can to some people have great emotional level.

 

[tom_mai78101]

There's no shyness involved? No embarrassment? Nothing at all? There has to be something...isn't there's a saying that "A kiss is an art."? How come we're different? How come I can't see anyone kissing in public like people in France? How come I can't understand fully what you think of about kissing?

 

[Varine]

Give her a bigger allowance?

There's no shyness involved? No embarrassment? Nothing at all? There has to be something...isn't there's a saying that "A kiss is an art."? How come we're different? How come I can't see anyone kissing in public like people in France? How come I can't understand fully what you think of about kissing?

A lot of eastern countries have a more traditional form of society where just by the silent rule it's not a public thing. America has become a lot more 'modern' in the rules of society and gradually public displays of affection, or PDA's as certain fags/teachers like to call, isn't that big of a deal.

 

[tom_mai78101]

I'm speechless.

 

[Jimpy]

a kiss is a greate way to exchange pharamones, so if your intention is to bring some one to the bed, its a great starter.

Kissing does not exchange pheromones. It may have social implications that release endorphins that then in turn will make our body's sweat out some pheromones.

There's no shyness involved? No embarrassment? Nothing at all? There has to be something...isn't there's a saying that "A kiss is an art."? How come we're different? How come I can't see anyone kissing in public like people in France? How come I can't understand fully what you think of about kissing?

"A kiss is an art." Tell that to my friend who pretty much tongue jousts with his girlfriend.

I'm speechless.

Exclaiming lack of concepts to share!


Kissing is technically meaningless but like many things, different cultures and groups of people give it different meanings. I don't think its something there's really a right and wrong about given its a physical form of an abstract concept (relationship/love.)

 

[ElderKingpin]

from a religious point of view, if you arnt careful a kiss can escalate into other things. So.. it depends, there is no set answer, and i doubt it matters :/

 

[Ninva]

Some people see it as a meaningful expression of love. Others think of it as a greeting. Then others may think of it as a pass time. When I kiss someone I love (or have deep feelings for), I feel connected to that person. It's nice.

 

[sqrage]

Don't forget that there is obviously a difference between a kiss on the cheek and making out...

You don't make out with people to greet them tom mai, just a kiss on the cheek typically.

 

[Bloodcount]

> can give her sweets and a love card, but getting turned down is somewhat common among my status quo.

NO< HELL NO First rule of picking up chicks: NEVER, EVER, EVER, reveal your feelings...

Love card and sweets don't work if she is not interested. She will just know you like her and ignore you....

well in other words:
Man logic: I tell her I likes her-> she likes me -> <3

That is totally wrong... talk to her, get to know her, ask her out, find out how far she will get with you and if you feel lucky kiss her on the mouth...


PS: Am I missing the point of the thread?

 

[tom_mai78101]

> can give her sweets and a love card, but getting turned down is somewhat common among my status quo.

NO< HELL NO First rule of picking up chicks: NEVER, EVER, EVER, reveal your feelings...

Love card and sweets don't work if she is not interested. She will just know you like her and ignore you....

well in other words:
Man logic: I tell her I likes her-> she likes me -> <3

That is totally wrong... talk to her, get to know her, ask her out, find out how far she will get with you and if you feel lucky kiss her on the mouth...


PS: Am I missing the point of the thread?

Not really too much. I do have that Man logic. I wondered if a kiss means something that also fits the Man logic? I feel like there's a connection between the two.

Exclaiming lack of concepts to share!

That's because I don't understand the concepts. Why share something I'm unacknowledged about? I'm asking, not sharing.

 

[ElderKingpin]

> can give her sweets and a love card, but getting turned down is somewhat common among my status quo.

NO< HELL NO First rule of picking up chicks: NEVER, EVER, EVER, reveal your feelings...

Love card and sweets don't work if she is not interested. She will just know you like her and ignore you....

well in other words:
Man logic: I tell her I likes her-> she likes me -> <3

That is totally wrong... talk to her, get to know her, ask her out, find out how far she will get with you and if you feel lucky kiss her on the mouth...


PS: Am I missing the point of the thread?

This isnt HELP TOM MAI GET A DATE!!! He just wants to know. I would also like to point out that

Love card and sweets don't work if she is not interested. She will just know you like her and ignore you....
THIS, ill take a point and tell you that if yur guess is lucky enough and you do what bollo just advised against and the girl does like you, yay for you.

Again, this isnt a "learn how to date" thread, if you want to learn how to date go
Here
Yes. even wiki went this low

 

[tom_mai78101]

I'm not asking how to date, I'm asking what's the point of a kiss whenever you see one nearby. Why not just say: "Greetings, *a big smooch*" instead of "Greetings." when someone who greets wanted to kiss you.

 

[FireCat]

say: "Greetings, *a big smooch*" instead of "Greetings." when someone who greets wanted to kiss you.

You mean a greeting kiss?

 

[tom_mai78101]

Does it always have to be a greetings? Why is it meaningful to have greetings kiss anyway?

If the Eastern and Western Cultures were to be switched around, you'll see that a greetings kiss is more like you're spreading germs around people's cheek. Is that meaningful? You see kisses in a secret place, which makes an unusually aura of sensational mood for a kiss, is that meaningful, even when the kiss is actually a grettings kiss?

I see a kiss a "lips touching each other" action. Scientifically, it's known elsewhere in the animal kingdom. Dogs and cats lick their mouths, that's a kiss. But why there's a meaning that exists in that action? Care to say, what do you see when you see a meaningless kiss? I keep seeing meaningless kisses, which is why I asked.

In Western countries, husbands kisses their wives. In Eastern countries, I hardly see husbands kissing wives. (Or was that because of Japan's cultural references?)

Just that picture I don't get.