Help on Family Issue

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XxShadyxX

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Hello,

I'm in slight need of help, well major.

I live in a family of 4,

My Step Dad
My Half Sister, (Step Dads Daughter, Moms Daughter)
My Mom
and I

My Step dad has anger managment issues, and he favors his daughter to his death. Its his only daughter and he spoils her rotten.

My mom is madly in love with him, doesn't listen to anyone else, and only thinks of herself, anything that comes between her and her husband, all hell breaks loose.

My dad has beaten me in the past, still threatens to do it, threatens to kill me, screams in my face, puts my head up agains't walls, and my mom doesn't care.

My dad is the only one supplying our home with money, and my mom can't work.

I am the one in the house who does all the cleaning, everything, and I get screamed at, yelled at, put down, every single day. I'm getting tired of crying my self to sleep every night.

When I try to bring up an issue, try to tell them this isn't fair, try to change things, my dad screams in my face, "You have no right to tell what is right and wrong or what is Fair! This is my house and you will do whatever the hell I tell you to do or i'll beat your fucking ass! My way or the highway!"

He knows he spoils my sister, he knows I can't do anything about it. He knows my rights are violated.

I'm up to the point now where I now I need to do something before I do something radical.

But here are some issues:

I can't tell any officials, my dad will lose his job, My little sister and I will probably be taken by CPS and go into a foster home, I would break my mom's heart, and its something I wouldn't be able to handle, ruining 3 peoples lives. Even though I know I am the one who's life has been being ruined.


I have been tramautized many times, and I just can't take this anymore, my Grades at school are being effected by it, I have no one to talk to about it cuz I am restricted to go anywhere but school.

I feel like a modern day Cinderella.

Please I need help.
 

Avaleirra

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That really sucks man :/. I'm sorta experiancing a minor version of this with my family.


My advice would be to find a good friend you can trust and just tell them everything. It'll make you feel better. Dont go to a psychologist or a counseller because they will tell officials even if they say they won't.

Do you have any trusted teachers to talk to? Some teachers aren't total douchebags and can be trusted.


Your situation seems dire. Judging from your post I can see that you care about your mother a lot. But you don't seem to like your half sister and step father. If I were in your position I would explain your feelings to your mom. I read how she doesn't want anything to come between her relationship, but I would suggest trying to have 1 on 1 tine with her and tell how you're feeling.


Good Luck.
Avaleirra



P.S. PM me if you want to talk.
 

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While I wish you the best, this isn't the place to ask for help.
See this thread for more info on why this was locked.
 
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