There's this girl...

[Xapphire]

Alright, well I met this girl like 3 months ago, shes super nice looking, shes interesting, and she is simply in my best interest currently. I feel totally normal talking to her, like relaxed and stuff, never nervous, never shy. We have been through a lot, and we have shareed things we havent shared with our friends, and we are closer then to jsut stop talking even if we do break up. I'm not exactly looking for a wife, as some would say, I just want a happy relationship that keeps on going. Then again she is different from some girls I have dated before.

Anyways let me tell you a little about her, her names Megan, she loves football, like shes thoughtful and cute and funny sometimes, at the same time she'd listen to rock and stuff, and like breakdancing, one of those open minded girls, having unique likings. I already proved I liked her, she told me she does too, and we have like shared lots.. .

So I was just wondering, since this is one of my more deeper relationships in college, if you guys can give me some advice maybe, what to talk about with her etc. I have some restrictions as I don't want to rush anything, nor do I only want sex and those sick desires we have, that is way back in my interest for her, and I just want normal topics we can chat about and maybe some advice you guys can give me.

So far we have talked about almost everything about each others' families, hobbies, foods, sports, friends, and past lives, I'm looking for more interesting topics what you can come up with.

Thanks anyways -(Xapphire)

 

[TheDamien]

Just as a heads up, don't expect anything remotely productive to come of this thread.

 

[Xapphire]

I don't, my heads up , I've just seen how you guys can be creative, I want to see your comments

 

[BANANAMAN]

Have you talked about what you guys do online?

Minus the porn of course

 

[Pineapple]

It has been stated before, we are not a self help forum.

Also,

Talk about random stuff if you think that wont be a turn off.

No one likes to talk aboutserious stuff all the time! Ask her if she likes chickens when they wear top hats. And what exactly is stopping them from wearing top hats? Why dont thy have arms?

If shes funny she probably wont give serious answers and you can just continue on laughing talknig about random stuff.

Its like the ask a stupid question get a stupid answer thread.

Except in real life.

And It gets you girls.

 

[Xapphire]

So far so good, I like this chicken idea haha, thanks to you too BANANAMAN , no we havn't.

 

[Pineapple]

Have you talked about what you guys do online?

Minus the porn of course

you mean there is more then just that online? :O

 

[Prometheus]

Kitchen?

 

[sqrage]

If you're comfortable around each other, just talk about any random thing that comes to mind really.

 

[Zakyath]

Be yourself is all that you can do...

 

[Xapphire]

I hate being plain, I'd just be like I'm bored or something, or we'd like just keep going on and on about something, and I'm positive its boring her. Thanks for all the comments btw!

 

[Ninva]

Be yourself is all that you can do...

Best advice on this thread.

Trust me, if you jump out as a person who you think is great and sparkly, you'll end up wanting to change back to your old self once the relationship hits that five month mark. You may even crash before that. But the funny thing is, once you show your true self to that girl, she won't turn away... unless she doesn't really love you. Hey, what do I know? I'm just in highschool.

Be yourself. Not a hunky sex god, nice romantic guy, nor an intellectual lawyer dude. Be who you are, and she'll accept you if there really is a connection.

I hope things turn out well for you.

 

[Xapphire]

Oh man, But I am a intellectual lawyer dude.. its my major..

 

[TheDamien]

Personally I think that "be yourself" is extremely bad advice, although it does continually crop up in these conversations. Observe normal and healthy social interaction - you will notice that people are anything but themselves.

Internally, human beings experience a wide range of thoughts and emotions that would never be expressed in a social context. Not only that, but to guarantee social cohesion people must frequently pretend to (explicitly or otherwise) feel, accept or agree with things that they might otherwise not. Since this process is mostly natural and subconscious, there isn't much you can do about it anyway.

 

[Ninva]

Oh man, But I am a intellectual lawyer dude.. its my major..

I know. What I meant is not to act like the only thing you are is an intellectual lawyer. You're still a person despite your career or aspiration. My girlfriend doesn't read a story I write, and she'll never discuss a story with me. She's not interested in who I want to become or what I want to do as a career. She just enjoys being with me - not the writer, poet, musician, or actor.

That, or I'm totally deluded into a plot from the "Mean Girl" movie. Eh, it's best not to worry so much. I'm happy right now.

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Personally I think that "be yourself" is extremely bad advice, although it does continually crop up in these conversations. Observe normal and healthy social interaction - you will notice that people are anything but themselves.

"You are who you pretend to be." - Kurt Vonnegut, Mother Night

Just shut up and let the kid be "himself."

Kidding... kidding...

 

[Xapphire]

Well see, you have one perspective, at the same time I want to have fun and stuff, and you girlfriend seems to be supremely into you, I want someone interested in what I do, like me for what I like as well. Have more fun the drama.

 

[Ninva]

Well see, you have one perspective, at the same time I want to have fun and stuff, and you girlfriend seems to be supremely into you, I want someone interested in what I do, like me for what I like as well. Have more fun the drama.

Oh, I guess that's where our personalities separate. I enjoy things to be mellow, but I have little drama fits sometimes.

Anyhow, I think all my "advice" has been spent here. I wish you luck with your college dating.

 

[BANANAMAN]

Get her to like video games? :nuts:

 

[Xapphire]

Thanks ninva, and we have the occasional, who's better at Guitar Hero days haha.. though I whoop her any day...

 

[BANANAMAN]

I guess that would do for a start